The effect of being in a wrong relationship for a long time on the mind

You convince yourself that you have come this far, so at least keep trying. But love is not a project that rewards effort. Photo: Made with AI

Many relationships do not end suddenly. Rather, it is seen that they gradually fade away even after going through many negative situations. And while in a relationship, it is seen that you are not good. You do not get peace, but rather the suffering increases. Fear, shame and selfish determination keep many people unnecessarily locked in relationships. However, many do not understand that getting out of that relationship can be good.

When you put your emotions and effort into a relationship, you only get hurt from the other side, which is what psychologists call the 'sunk cost fallacy', which is what often prevents people from leaving a relationship. After investing many years, energy and emotions, ending a relationship feels like wasting everything.

Life and Relationship Coach Dr. Nidhika Bahl says, you convince yourself that you have come this far, so at least keep trying. But love is not a project that rewards effort. When a relationship no longer develops you, brings you joy or peace, many people stay for the sake of habit, which causes terrible psychological damage. People in the wrong relationship gradually lose their self-esteem. Many times, adequate attention is given, but satisfaction or fulfillment is not found.

Dr. Nidhika Bahl says, if you are in the wrong relationship for a long time, you start to doubt your decisions, your worth, and even your reality. You have to make yourself smaller to avoid conflict, suppress your needs and keep the peace. But true love never forces you to make yourself smaller. This loss often causes a deeper wound than heartbreak, because it disconnects you from your inner strength.

Dr. Bahl also says that another aspect of the wrong relationship is shame. Maybe you tried to justify your partner's behavior or ignored your discomfort. Maybe you even distanced yourself from friends and family who saw the warning signs. After it all ended, it is very difficult to face yourself and the situation. You feel isolated, ashamed and alone.

Letting go of a relationship that is not working for you is not a sign of weakness, but a sign of awareness. Staying in the wrong relationship for a long time only increases the pain and damage. Experts say that it is important to end the relationship if necessary to maintain your self-worth and peace. To move forward in life, you need to understand the importance of leaving the wrong relationship and starting something new.

Source: Times of India